rESPONSE TO jOANS WEEK # 3: I have done the same thing or at least thought it, and if i really am curious i will ask. I have only offended one guy, he went to high school with my cousin. He works in fashion and has that certain speech slur that i have come (through what Ive learned from whats around me) associate with the "flamboyant" homosexual male. I felt very bad but I never intent to offend people i just want to know so I do not make the mistake of calling them out in front of a crowd if they happen to be gay. I do recognize that it is way different than someone asking me if I'm straight.